People around me always advice me to be more selfish, make myself my own priority and always put myself first before others. This is because if I don't take a good care of myself, ain't no body is going to do that for me.
Selfish? It's a part of human nature. Everybody is selfish.
However, being selfish, doesn't mean that you have to be self-centred.
So, how to differentiate selfish and self-centred?
In my point of view, being selfish is by taking care of ourselves and don't really mind about others.
However, being self-centred, is not just taking care of ourselves, don't bother about other people, instead exploiting them, make use of them and sacrifice them whenever they are no longer needed.
Being self-centred is not learning on how to love others, but always expecting others to love us and help us to do things for the sake of our own convenience.
I have met a few self-centred people in my life and all of them own the same characteristics.
A self-centred person is someone who give a little, but always think that he or she has given others the whole world. This kind of person always feel unappreciated and extremely whiny. If he or she gave you an apple and you returned him or her hundred dollars, it will not be enough.
A self-centred person always direct the blame towards another party. This kind of person never thought about having self reflections and always think himself or herself as the victim of every situation. Sometimes, he or she might even practice self pity and wonder why that there is no one to bear with his or her personality. He or she always demand attention and high tolerance from people around. The thing is, this world is about give and take. A heart will eventually grew tired if it loves too much and get nothing in return. Nobody likes to make a whole lot of effort just to please a person who never knows how to love back, but just know how to love himself or herself.
"We often think that we see the world as it is, but in fact we see the world as we are." This is a quote which I would really like to send to all self-centred beings that I have came to know all my life. A self-centred person is often dramatic and likes to exaggerate things.
Besides, a self-centred person is afraid to be left alone but luckily, this kind of person has a lot of egos, so he or she can still survive in any situation. A self-centred person knows how to manipulate and exploit people around because this kind of person knows well in how to save his or her own ass. Once he or she is done with you, you will be thrown away as you are no longer valuable and are no longer useful. A self-centred person possess good speaking skills and knows rhetoric well. He or she is often persuasive and knows well in finding the right time to let out the bait.
A self-centred person seems to be dangerous, but in fact, he or she is not.
In order to defend yourself when you ever encounter with a self-centred person is by not being afraid to stand your own ground and be mentally prepared from all hurtful words and disrespectful treatments.
A self-centred person only target on those who have low self-esteems and uses your own fears and your lack of self confidence to manipulate you. However, once you are bravely enough to fight back, he or she may not respect you fully, but at least, he or she will back off a little.
Sometimes, even though, you don't feel like offending anyone or trying to keep everything in a harmonised state, still, when someone came in and threatened your confidence or even make you feel bad for defending yourself, don't be. If you are unable to defend yourself because you are afraid of things, then you will never be free from getting used by others.
Be Brave, Trust Yourself and always Remember Who You Are.
